I thrive when I’m ‘in control’ (note: this doesn’t mean being ‘controlling’ or being a ‘control freak’). I have to have an element of control in the household, family activities, and the way things are run from day to day. So as long as I’m in control of steering the family ship life is good.

Johan has a competitive spirit that is always seeking to ‘be the best.’ This helps him succeed with his personal development, in sports, and excelling in his career at a very high level… but also explains his need to always ‘be right.’ If I’m in control, then he can be right and it’s a win-win for both of us.

Misty and I both have alpha gates that have to find ways to compromise so they don’t conflict. It takes a navigation process so that we can both exert our alpha energies healthily (i.e. – you can watch the iPad WHILE you eat your broccoli and so on). I wonder how this will progress in her teenage years.

Misty and I can have gates that can run hot, whereas Johan brings gates with a cooling element to complete the channel and balance us as a family.

Johan and Misty both have talent and creative gates which, much to my disappointment, I do not. However, I bring the empowerment gates, in which I help empower their gifts and bring them direction that contributes their creative talent toward a greater cause. Consider me the muse!

Johan and I respond to life instantly with a physical ‘yes/no’ bodily response in situations. Misty, however, needs longer to process her emotions and determine how she ‘feels’ about a situation. Knowing this, we can be patient with her process and release the pressure of making her decide on something in the moment. Instead, she needs to feel things out in her own way and in her own timing.

Oh, there is so much more to share, but these are just some fun points to begin with!

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